a science-backed guide on

how to be chalant



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chalant (a.) - careful, interested, engaged



HOW TO USE THIS GUIDE:
1. type a friend's name in the text field
2. copy one of the pre-written msgs & send to them
3. or set a reminder and talk to them irl


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check in with them

hey you were on my mind today hows it going?
yo i was thinking abt u today, hows was ur summer?
wait didn’t u have that audition today? how’d it go 🫣
omg how are college apps going for you ??

ask them "what" and "how"

yo how was ur summer?? how’d that program go 👀
how’s ur last week of summer treating u lol
what was the best part of that trip?

don’t leave them hanging

aight imma go knock out i’ll ttyl goodnight
bruh i gotta go but this was fun 😭 catch u tmrw?

don't hog your convos with them

wait that’s actually so sick tell me everything
omg wait finish your story first tho i wanna hear the rest
wait i’ve been ranting LMAO how was ur day??

validate how your friend feels

man that actually sounds really hard. i get why you’d feel like that
that makes so much sense tbh. i’d feel the same way if i were u
nah dude you’re not overreacting. that’d mess anyone up

celebrate them wins like they're your own

HAPPY BIRTHDAY U LEGEND 🎉
YO STOP THAT’S INSANE I’M SO PROUD OF U 😭 ur actually them
LET’S GOOO i’m so hyped for u 😭😭

take care of them

hey i really care for u but when’s the last time u actually slept 💀
wanna just call on facetime while u work? i don’t even have to talk lol
i’ll door dash u smth if u don’t eat tmr don’t play w me

keep ur promises to them

aight i said i’d help w calc so ur stuck w me now 🫡
omg i blanked so hard i’m actually so sorry 😭 i swear i won’t forget next time

support them at their dreams

ik u don’t see it rn but u literally got this. ur built for this i swear
bro u 100% got this just send it 💪
i better see u on that stage fr i’m already planning the instagram post 😤

tell them you're grateful

bro i’m glad we’re friends. deadass.
ok not 2 get soft but ur literally one of the only ppl i feel like i can be 100% me with
hey ur actually such a real one ty fr
hi just wanna say i appreciate u <3

be there for them when they feel overwhelmed

hey how u coping with everything?
here to call if u need anything
not tryna make u talk if u don’t want to but how are you feeling with all that?
ik i can’t fix any of this but i’m here if u just wanna talk or even just sit in call and vent
even if we just talk abt dumb stuff for a sec i hope it makes it suck a little less today

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